Marrying yourself: a thing you can do. Kind of.

February 21, 2018

Listen: Joy by Wizkid

Wizkid dropped a new track this week– yay– but let’s take a second to celebrate his splendor in years past. Today, Wizkid has a hit with Drake under his belt and lives in Lagos / kind of maybe LA. In 2014, Wizkid lived in South Africa and dropped Ayo, the album that houses what might be the world’s most listenable song, Ojuelegba. You know what else was on that album? Joy. Which is both a song title and the thing you feel when you listen to both that song and all that Wizkid has produced since. Here you go.

The age of the self-marriage

Oh my god Fashion Week. Let me spare you the buildup: this designer at Collina Strada, a label I’ve never heard of but maybe you have, used her fashion show as a dramatic opportunity to have one model marry herself. Sorry– her ‘higher self’– and she’s dubbed the practice Sologamy, for anyone who wants to attach a philosophy to being single. The model processed down the aisle behind lots of the designer’s friends, and, in effect, vowed publicly to love herself. Which you could see either as a demonstration of self-love amidst a climate of sexualized fear, or just as fashion week, if you’re feeling less generous. Either way, I suspect this won’t be the last.

Self-love or self-loathing: A Marie Kondo Show

Did we all hear Marie Kondo is getting her own show on Netflix? Basically 2018’s version of Queer Eye for the Straight Guy– which I just realized is still airing, also on Netflix– it has Marie swooping in on people’s homes to Kondo coach what promises to be a group of people whose personal issues can be explored via their closets. Not gonna lie, I kind of can’t wait.

Oh, you wanted real friends? $

We talked about Remote Year for a minute the other day, the program that sets you up to work remotely from a different corner of the world each month. If you’re thinking it might sound like a good thing for you, I have some more thoughts: after chatting with more of their remotes in Cape Town, it’s clear that one of the biggest benefits of the program is the community. Here’s what I mean: if you were to travel to 12 cities solo, you’d make friends in each city for sure but you’d have no continuity, and that means you’d probably get lonely. Remote Year, in addition to providing a housing setup and workspace, gives you friends– both for your time away, and for life, in the singular-shared-experience way. One person in the program described it as ‘like college, where all your friends live in the same place, but where everyone is an adult already.’ Sounds pretty sweet. More info here; you are welcome to actively pursue, or just add to your life vision board. Up to you.

But does it bring you joy.
Margot

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